But it’s also not a non-existent characteristic. Frankly, it’s not even a mildly interesting part of who I am. You get the idea.įatness isn’t a defining characteristic of who I am. Not only am I fat, I’m also tall, and loud, and a traveler, and a hiker, and very practical, and kinda a dime, when I bother to brush my hair or whatever, and married to a gorgeous gingerbeardy dude who also thinks I’m a dime. Here’s the thing: to me, fat is just a neutral descriptor. Fatness and poor health are not necessarily things that are connected, and I’m in the best shape of my life – much better than when I was thin and dying. Oh, and for those of you concerned about my health: it’s also perfectly fine, thank you. I refer to myself as fat (and also, like, all of the above).Īt this point in my life – after wasting a bunch of years struggling against my fatness and battling an eating disorder that nearly killed me – I’ve come to embrace it … and, subsequently, totally get over it: I’m fat, and it’s fine. Some fabulous fat ladies refer to themselves as curvy, or voluptuous, or Amazonian, or thick, or plus-size, or whatever term they like best. (Psst: my responses to him were SO polite and I didn’t even use the phrase “eat a bag of d*cks” ONCE, y’all #classylady) This photo of me was republished onto a very popular Instagram account and one of the first comments was “she’d be so pretty if she lost about 40lbs.” Y’all, if people make fun of you on the internet for being fat, I think you get to be in the fat club. It’s nice of you to be concerned, but those are things you say to make someone feel better, and there’s nothing to make me feel better about, because there’s nothing wrong with being fat and I don’t even feel mildly bad about it. I can feel some of you well-intended folks out there itching to reassure me about my fatness, but PLEASE, resist the urge to say something like “oh, you’re just curvy!” or “but you carry it so well” or “but you have such a pretty face,” or “you’re not THAT fat” or “you’re not fat, you HAVE fat.” So f**k it: I’m picking a side here and I choose to identify myself, happily, as fat. Some months, I fall into that irritating black hole where I’m a little too small for plus-sized stores and a little too big for every other store. I don’t need to prove my fat credentials. We don’t have to attach qualifiers or numbers to it. But OMG, Lia, you’re NOT (that) fatįat is a subjective term, but let’s just get this out of the way: I’m fat. ![]() ![]() Oh hayyy! Don’t mind me, just being fabulously fat in Maui. Travel Essentials We Bring on Every Trip. ![]() 30 Things No One Tells You About Backpacking in South America.32 Things Nobody Tells You About Long Term Travel as a Couple.30 Things Nobody Tells You About Quitting Your Job to Travel.
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